Women’s History Month is a time to celebrate the generations of women who have shaped our world and to inspire those who will shape its future. For grandfathers, that legacy begins with the lessons they pass down to their granddaughters, rooted in love, guidance, and hope for who they will become. From encouraging kindness and curiosity, to instilling confidence and independence, these reflections offer timeless advice for the next generation of strong, capable women.
Lou Falcone
Having raised three kids – 2 daughters and a son, I know how busy life is in the moment. This is to say, I am not sure that I thought of what lessons I wanted to (or ultimately did) teach them. Now that my first born has a daughter of her own, the invitation to write about the lessons I’d like to teach my granddaughter – born just 4 months ago – comes at a perfect time.
So, to my granddaughter, I will pass along these thoughts:
- Believe in yourself and in your own beliefs and decisions. Don’t get reeled into what others say or do.
- Listen and learn from others “within reason.” Be sure to build your confidence by learning from others as well as listening to your own heart. Both are key.
- Follow your passions, whether in your career, hobbies, or wherever else they are.
- Respect others and treat them as they treat you. Be sure not to lower yourself to someone else’s mindset if they treat you with disrespect.
- Think things through and make wise decisions. Take responsibility for your actions. Life will take you through good times and bad, but you will always get through them.
- Value relationships, as they each have more meaning than you may realize at the moment.
- Time goes by quickly (as we all know). Make the most of every moment!
And last but not least, the sky’s the limit! Dream big, go after your dreams with everything you have, and always remember that I’m here to support you and help you achieve your goals.
To my daughters, it’s never too late to say that I am very proud of the women you’ve become – with or without lessons from your dad!
My eldest, a pre-school teacher who always knew what she wanted to be, I will say that no one is better suited for this role, as children and teaching were always your passions. Suits you well as a new mom too!
My youngest, the energetic and outgoing one, known as our “street smart” kid, learned to navigate some of life’s challenges at an early age and has never been afraid to try new things that are in her best interests, I will say that as a great “people person”, your unique laughter and radiant presence continue to open doors all around you.
Phil Steiner, PE
My 4 granddaughters are all under 5 years old. As they grow, I hope to continue being an integral part of their lives. My messages to them will change as they grow, but it will remain consistent, focusing on two prevailing themes: courtesy and safety. That’s how we raised our daughter, with life lessons flowing from these themes as needed. At their current ages, my advice is:
- Be kind. Share and use gentle hands.
- Tell the truth. Say sorry when you hurt someone.
- Try new things. It’s okay to be scared – take one small step at a time.
- Wash your hands and brush your teeth every day.
- Eat some fruits and veggies so you grow strong.
- Listen to grown-ups who keep you safe.
- Cleaning up is part of play time. A place for everything and everything in its place.
- Say “I love you,” “please,” “thank you,” and “I need help.”
- Be curious: ask “why?” and explore with your eyes and ears.
As they mature, the messages will also. It will include the importance of being independent, keeping your word, continuous learning and satisfying curiosity, forgiveness, helping others and giving of yourself in service to others. Hopefully, they will realize the world is their oyster and will go and find their pearls.
